A question I am asked very frequently through the years, by customers as well as many of my friends, is "How do I give a Blow Job?"

Giving oral sex, whether on men or women, is not a paint-by-numbers" task. There is no one sure way that is the best. For every different guy that is out there, there will be that many ways of giving a guy pleasure. I'll talk a little bit about a few different techniques. As well as give some tips that will add variety.

The only rule that is Absolute, is this:
PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR GUY'S RESPONSE TO YOUR TECHNIQUE.

As you're giving head (oral sex) listen for moans, feel his body tense and move. Pay attention to what you just did, repeat it and see if you get the same response, then memorize what you did, so you'll remember it next time. Oral sex is a little bit instinct and a little bit trial and error. Just because he liked it last time, doesn't always mean he's enjoying it this time. Guys have different moods too! Also, ask him during the blow job, if he wants it faster or slower, also ask if he'd like it harder or gentler.

And Guys, if you're reading this, PLEASE WASH THOUROUGHLY AND SHAVE FIRST!! Being freshly cleaned isn't optional, especially if you'd like a repeat performance....

As is the case with most new sexual positions, techniques, a light and easy touch to start is a good idea. Gently grasp the shaft and stroke it a little. And remember to go slow and steady. Eventually you can increase speed and roughness as he may desire. Your mouth and touch should be gentle, but firm enough not to tickle him. Be aware also, that clear seminal fluid (not sperm) will leak out of the tip while you're giving oral sex. This is a big sign that he's very turned on and may be ready to cum.

First, lick your lips or apply chapstick (for your comfort) and gently slide the lick the head, then slide the head of his penis in your mouth. AVOID THE TEETH. Unless your guy expresses pleasure at a light nibble, he very likely doesn't enjoy sharp teeth on his cock. The head is the most sensitive part (like your clitoris). Imagine you're eating an ice-pop that's melting. Eventually, work your way down the shaft with a loose mouth and tighten your lips around it as you drag your tongue and mouth upwards along the shaft. Use the tip of your tongue to pay attention to the spot along the underside of his shaft right where it meets the head. This is one of the main nerves in the penis and source of incredible pleasure for most guys. Try to avoid too much saliva. The motion of your tongue caressing his penis is the main objective 90% of the time. Once in awhile you can "go deep" and try to fit as much of his cock into your mouth as you can. But it's difficult to breath while suppressing the gag reflex, so don't worry if that part doesn't last long.

Another technique is to place your mouth on his shaft like corn on the cob, or a harmonica. Then, using some tongue, slide your mouth along the shaft. Try rotating his shaft slightly as you slide up and down the length of him.

When you really want to intensify his pleasure make your tongue somewhat firm and use it to draw circles around his cock, where the head meets the shaft. At the same time, use your hand to make the head of his cock draw circles around your tongue, as if you're wrapping a ribbon around your tongue. Switch directions and use moderate suction. Suction will pull the blood into his penis and engorge him more. Too much suction is painful and will cause bruising in some cases, so be careful. A good rule to follow is use enough suction to keep your saliva in your mouth.

Now is a good time to discuss his balls. These are sometimes forgotten erotic zones. Handle gently and with care. During the Blow Job, cradle them in your palm while you pet and caress them. Gentle tugging may also feel good. Scraping your fingernails along the sac provides him yet another sensation to enjoy. Gently use your fingers to roll the balls around inside the sac. Be VERY gentle. If he enjoys it, he might want you to kiss and take a ball into your mouth, and gently use your tongue to caress them.

Use your hands to provide additional sensation on the shaft as well. Keep a firm hold of his shaft near the base of his penis, nearly the entire time. Once in awhile let your hands follow your mouth up and down the shaft stroking him while he is in your mouth. Sometimes even gently dragging your nails up his shaft. Also try gently stretching the skin of his penis tightly towards his body away from the head while your mouth and tongue are on the head. This sometimes increases the intesity of the sensation of your mouth.

Another spot to use your hands besides the shaft and balls, is the nifkin or perineum. The Perineum is the spot of skin between the ballsack and the anus. There's a very sensitive spot there that when pressed and massaged increases pleasure dramatically. It's actually his prostate being stimulated. The prostate is the "Male G-Spot". Massaging the perineum during oral sex usually delays and intensifies the orgasm. When you massage the perineum, be certain your hands are soft and smooth, and your fingernails are trimmed with no rough edges. Use firm undulating pressure, with your index finger and also using small circular motions. Slow and steady, like applying lotion, is best, avoid being fast and rough.

In addition to these basic styles of touch, you may also use humming to produce a vibrating sensation.

Remember, he should ALWAYS warn you when he's about to cum, and give you the option of recieving semen in your mouth. (see the article on altering the taste of semen). It's up to you whether to let him cum in your mouth or not. Once the semen is in your mouth, having a washcloth or towel nearby is a delicate way to spit it out if you prefer not to swallow. Some guys may actually feel bad about cumming in your mouth. These are all things you should probably find out ahead of time.

If the idea of giving your guy oral sex isn't enjoyable, here are a few things to make it more interesting.

• Sweeten69 alters the taste of semen to make it more enjoyable. Can also be used by women to alter their secretion’s and fluid's taste
• Edible Body Paint This is my personal favorite. It's made from real freeze dried food, and doesn't have any chemical aftertaste at all. The strawberry is especially delicious. Paint it on his cock, let it dry, then simply lick it all off. It tastes like jam!!
• Mints These provide pleasant taste plus numbing for you, and a cool tingling sensation for him. Eat them before during and after Oral Sex. For a more intense sensation, you can use altoids or Riccola throat drops too!
• Edible Body Dust If you prefer a milder flavor, body dust gives a hint of tastesmell and provides a different texture, close your eyes and using just taste and smell, try to remove all the dust from all over his groin with your mouth and tongue.

Along with the tricks and tips above, you may also include vibrating toys while giving head. A hands-free way to do this is with a vibrating cockring. You can also use the basic bullet and play with it along his balls and on his perineum.

If you're still not confident of your skills, buy a popsicle similar to the cherry-pineapple flavored "Big Stick" and practice!

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